We Were Drowning in our Finances
My husband made good money, but we were in trouble. I gave up my career to stay at home with our babies so I didn’t think I could say anything. When I did say something, the response was what do you want me to do about it.
That was a low in our marriage.
Are you kidding.
What do I want you to do about it?
I wanted to say, how about anything new.
How about we try something new.
But I tried to be the supportive wife. Do you ever feel like we are suppose to say yes and no and be the 1950’s type of wife? Well I felt that way.
I didn’t know how to change our financial life, but I was scared. Very scared. I had just brought our third child into the world. We were in debt to our eyeballs, but we had our dream home.
I was so scared that I could not breathe at times. My husband and I were fighting, but more than the fighting was this little jab session we would do to each other. We continued to tear each other down a little bit at a time.
We were completely shut off from each other.
Then my husband finally heard me. He wanted to try something new. Getting out of debt. Now I thought he was really STUPID. This is not what I meant by trying something new. I had been doing the finances and now was offended. I thought I had been doing a good job with the money we had to work with.
We were barely talking and we could not talk about finances without fighting. Now my brilliant husband wanted to just talk about our finances. Was he kidding?
When I objected, he reminded me that I wanted something new. So I put on my big girl panties and we dove in. The crazy thing was we started talking. Really talking, not just about our finances, but about our dreams.
That is when I was no longer mad at my husband anymore.
I was falling in love with him all over again.
But if you are the one showing up to talk about finances because you think you have to show up, that was me too.
If your skin crawls to think of your finances, that was me too.
If you feel hopeless, that was definitely me.
This topic of finances does not have to stay taboo. We can help you. You are not alone.
Now after over ten years of helping others with their finances, we have a good handle on our money and our life.
Sound too good to be true. I promise it is possible and my husband makes it easy. He can help your marriage. Give him a call. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.